I first heard about Ellen Pao when our local paper covered her lawsuit against her employer Kleiner Perkins Caufield and Byers for gender discrimination It was no surprise that she lost the case.This book primarily discusses her case of gender inequality in the science and business world Pao has her degree in engineering from Princeton, a law degree from Harvard and an MBA from Harvard Pao describes the problem women have in male dominated fields She says ambitious women are seen as aggressive I have found this is a common theme in many books about gender inequality As a female scientist I also have been subjected to many of the various tactics described in the book I am much older than Pao so what we faced in many ways was far worse than she encountered I remember in high school having to fight the school administration to be allowed into science classes Then I was the only female in the class.Pao tells of her life as a child in Maplewood, New Jersey growing up in a high achieving Chinese immigrant family She tells of her education and life in the business world She also describes the treatment she received from men during and after her lawsuit The last part of the book is about the work she is doing and the organization she has started to create diversity in the tech industry.The book is well written The pernicious misogyny she describes is a common problem faced by most women over the years and it only gets worse the higher women try to climb in their field.I read this as an audiobook downloaded from Audible The book is almost eleven hours long Emily Woo Zeller did a great job narrating the book Zeller is an Audie nominated narrator and has earned multiple Earphone and SOVRS awards She also received Audiofile magazines Best Voice Award in 2013 and 2015. The Necessary And Incisive Roxane Gay Account Of The Discrimination Case That Has Blown Open A Conversation About The Status Of Women In The Workplace The New York Times In , Ellen K Pao Sued A Powerhouse Silicon Valley Venture Capital Firm, Calling Out Workplace Discrimination And Retaliation Against Women And Other Underrepresented Groups Her Suit Rocked The Tech World And Exposed Its Toxic Culture And Its Homogeneity Her Message Overcame Negative PR Attacks That Took Aim At Her Professional Conduct And Her Personal Life, And She Won Widespread Public Support Time Hailed Her As The Face Of Change Though Pao Lost Her Suit, She Revolutionized The Conversation At Tech Offices, In The Media, And Around The World In Reset, She Tells Her Full Story For The First TimeThe Daughter Of Immigrants, Pao Was Taught That Through Hard Work She Could Achieve Her Dreams She Earned Multiple Ivy League Degrees, Worked At Top Startups, And In Was Recruited By Kleiner Perkins, Arguably The World S Leading Venture Capital Firm At The Time In Many Ways, She Did Everything Right, And Yet She And Other Women And People Of Color Were Excluded From Success Cut Out Of Decisive Meetings And Email Discussions, Uninvited To CEO Dinners And Lavish Networking Trips, And Had Their Work Undercut Or Appropriated By Male Executives It Was Time For A System ResetAfter Kleiner, Pao Became CEO Of Reddit, Where She Took Forceful Action To Change The Status Quo For The Company And Its Product She Banned Revenge Porn And Unauthorized Nude Photos An Action Other Large Media Sites Later Followed And Shut Down Parts Of Reddit Over Online Harassment She And Seven Other Women Tech Leaders Formed Project Include, An Award Winning Nonprofit For Accelerating Diversity And Inclusion In Tech In Her Book, Pao Shines A Light On Troubling Issues That Plague Today S Workplace And Lays Out Practical, Inspiring, And Achievable Goals For A Better FutureEllen K Pao S Reset Is A Rallying Cry The Story Of A Whistleblower Who Aims To Empower Everyone Struggling To Be Heard, In Silicon Valley And Beyond Less I venture to guess that anyone reading Ellen Pao s personal experience about the discrimination she alleges at the hands of partners in the Silicon Valley venture capital firm Kleiner Perkins will find something in it with which to identify I don t expect anyone disbelieves her account The cliquish melodrama of board meetings or the exclusionary after hours drinking and strip clubs will be familiar to many, not all of them women The truth is, the watch your back lifestyle of partners out for themselves in a corporate environment can get pretty ugly, particularly when large amounts of money are thrown about Pao is just one of the first women to document how such exclusionary behaviors affects so called attempts to diversify management away from white men who probably should feel a little uncertain about sitting atop a corporation that is supposed to have its hand wrapped around the zeitgeist But any uncertainty these white men feel about their position is no excuse for discrimination based on sex, color, sexual orientation Let s face it Ellen Pao is one very special individual, but she s not going to change American corporate culture all on her own She merely points out how childish corporate culture can become when adults with family responsibilities and an obligation to think outside the box and be challenged in their thinking try to find ways around those obligations Ellen goes through whole sordid, tiresome saga of being given seats in the back of the room, not being invited to business dinners or even some business meetings , of being asked to get the coffee or pass the cookies, chapter and verse, yada yada, but here it is, bluntly As my time in venture wore on, and I began to notice my colleagues desperate unwillingness to depart from what they knew The fear seemed, to me, to come from social anxiety Almost all these men and they were nearly all men were awkward with each other and filled the awkwardness with clunky, inappropriate conversations They might spend a full hour discussing porn stars and debating their favorite type of sex worker Some would check out and flirt with the much younger administrative assistants half to a third their age and some would make racist jokes that weren t funny Or sexist jokes week after week after week, and sometimes than once in the same day I will take a stab at suggesting that we ve all been there in high school Ellen Pao grew up Asian American in a white world She knows all about different She knows about Asia and she knows about America Not exclusionary Not arrogant Not, in fact, entirely sure of herself, despite three IV league degrees in engineering, law and business But she s had enough of the chortling adolescents with sexual hand gestures in school and at work Pao s loss against Kleiner Perkins may define her, but not in the way the partners thought Ellen Pao is not only a star, but a thought leader At the end of this book detailing her discrimination case against the venture capital firm Kleiner Perkins, she writes of work done as CEO of reddit They were one of the first internet firms to take down user content that was anti social, hate speech, pornographic, or harassing Those are difficult decisions to make No other company was able to make that decision until she had After reddit she set up a venture, Project Include, to help early to mid stage tech firms diversify their leadership and management teams She acknowledges change is hard, that it won t happen on its own, and that lessons her team has learned can be useful for firms wanting to start but who are overwhelmed with choices This book is not merely Pao s side of the Kleiner Perkins lawsuit It is Pao s take aways from that soul crushing experience This book is how you know this woman is going to power up and over any obstacle in her way The thing she seems to understand is that diversity is, well, diverse Not everyone thinks alike That can divide a group, but Pao is betting that making people feel comfortable speaking out, contributing, and showcasing their special talents will bring a cohesiveness that will make the group succeed Let s hope so Be prepared for something radical And watch this woman My money s on her.Some extremely nasty commentary took place in the media before, during and after the Kleiner Perkins lawsuit, including this somewhat absurd piece in Fortune by Fox News contributor and now Fortune executive editor Adam Lashinsky and Katie Benner The authors point out a real logical inconsistency that Ellen Pao s jaw dropping and bold lawsuit against Kleiner Perkins flew in the face of past criticisms levied against her by Kleiner partners that she was passive, that she waited for orders, and that she was risk averse Pao answers all the questions raised in this article fully and adequately, even eloquently, in this book As I contend, I ve seen these behaviors before Theirs don t make sense Hers do I m with her. I came to know who Ellen Pao was when she was the interim CEO of reddit At that time, I learned that she was the evil CEO who fired Victoria, a much loved r IAMA community manager, and was trying to limit the freedom of a community The Victoria incident pissed me off, but honestly, I was happy that she got rid of subs like r fatpeoplehate And then it emerged much later that she wasn t the one who messed with Victoria Instead, the former founder of reddit, Alexis Ohanian, was behind that and conveniently let her take the fall for it The above was enough reason for me to be interested in her life.And then I found out that she filed a gender discrimination lawsuit against a major VC firm in the Valley Intriguing.And then I found out that she wrote a book where she talks about inclusion and gender discrimination Hmmm, not so interested Wait, but why Well, I have seen a lot of articles of late by people that read like rants about how the world is against them and everything wrong in the world is to be blamed on straight white men That has turned me off from several books and people I understand that there are problems and discrimination exists in some ways and something should be done, but I utterly dislike rants that attempt to polarize me against an entire group.in this case, straight white men So, I almost didn t read this book, but I figured, what the hell, let s give it a shot.With all that in mind, I can clearly say that I loved this book No, I don t agree with everything Pao says, but I truly appreciated the even handedness of this book I got a look into her life interesting , a look into the culture of VC firms interesting , a look into her stint at reddit very interesting to me, tbh , and a look into why she felt discriminated against very interesting The feeling I got from her is not that of a whiny person desperately seeking attention, but rather that of someone who worked hard, got the short end of the stick, realized that many people in her situation faced the same issues, and went and did something about it I appreciate her for what she has done And I appreciate this book for really giving me a visceral understanding of what it feels like to die a death of a thousand cuts My blood boiled while reading several parts of this book and I was well and truly enraged But in the end, what she did mattered If for no other reason than to convince this one reader that gender and color based discrimination is not yet a thing of the past. This took me a long time to finish perhaps because some of it just resonated a bit too well While I respected Pao before reading it, it really hit me how hard she struggled after reading it and just how resilient she was Having dealt with some discrimination and gaslighting in the past, I felt like it nearly broke me when people kept telling me the problem was me When HR told me Why would he hire women if he didn t treat them well it felt like the onus was on me justify someone else s bad behavior I wanted to curl up in a small ball when I heard that and I have no idea how Pao just kept showing up and pushing through that.Really recommend reading to understand the depths the absurdity she went through The end attempts to start towards a resolution but is, in many ways, incomplete because the struggle is still real The book poses a lot of questions for which we just don t have easy answers. Informing ourselves on all facets of the challenges we face is the first step to understanding how to overcome them Ellen Pao started her career in tech in the 90s In 2005, she was recruited to join Kleiner Perkins, one of the prominent venture capital firms Her experience at the firm ultimately lead to her highly publicised discrimination lawsuit After working at Kleiner, Pao worked briefly as Reddit CEO where she oversee some of the significant changes in handling online harassment This lead her to her current career as a diversity and inclusion activist and tech investor This book is nothing short of courageous I refrain from calling it a memoir because it is very much structured to be a reflective re telling of her discrimination case against Kleiner Perkins, her controversial exit from Reddit and her work as a founding member of Project Include The book is very straightforward and holds no punches Pao made it very clear who were her allies and who were her adversaries I truly appreciated that she recognised and articulated that she was in an unique position to take action and not everyone in the same position can afford these options for many reasons.Although her accounts are very matter of fact, you feel the emotion of the story She goes into excruciating detail of the instances of misogyny and discrimination during her career These accounts were particularly infuriating to read because you have probably experienced or bear witness to similar unchecked behavior However, Pao did pepper hindsight advice throughout the book as well as give concrete steps on how to navigate difficult workplace cultures at the end The way she addressed how the negative circumstances impacted her personal life was truly heartbreaking.There is a lot of repetition to make the connections and at times making the book dry in some areas It was also surprisedly factual without injecting too many negative feelings towards her adversaries At times, I wanted her to express angry at certain situations, including view spoiler having to work from her hospital bed before and after surgery and being blamed for poor performance because she was dealing with a miscarriage hide spoiler As a woman who has spent my entire career at startups and tech companies, a lot of Pao s experiences were a little too familiar, which made this a tough read for me Diversity and inclusion in tech is an issue I feel strongly about, and this book helped energize me to do to be part of the solution.The absolute ridiculousness that Pao had to deal with was mind boggling, and it s admirable that she kept showing up and persisting despite it all As an avid redditor which may surprise a lot of you , I admittedly knew much about Pao s time as reddit s interim CEO than I did about her trial against Kleiner Perkins, and I think my personal feelings about the way she handled some things at reddit made me dislike parts of the book than I would have otherwise Regardless, I really admire her activism and speaking out about these important issues. It s too bad you can t win a law suit for the most pernicious forms of sexism the exclusion, the vulgar comments, and the general unseen forces of sexism that is at the root and in the branches of practically every male dominated sector But no, you have to specify a bad egg and a specific line of causation that led to harm Pao writes a convincing narrative showing how pervasive sexism is in tech But it s not a scandalous narrative and it s not at all surprising to any woman who has every worked in a male dominated field But for that, I applaud her Nothing harrowing happened to Pao, but I am 100% convinced that her story is 100% accurate and just the tip of the iceberg Particularly in this metoo moment, I hope to see many stories like this and maybe even decide that the behavior is unacceptable Go Pao and others One of the most interesting tidbits in the book for me was how all these tech billionaires have a fear of the end of the world and are building themselves bunkers all over the world They think they will be hunted in a coming race class war This makes me happy because I love that they live in fear understanding that their fortunes are undeserved and they fear that the rest of us will come for them It makes me angry because we will never come for them They will keep their carried interest loopholes, keep building 500 million dollar bachelor pads and keep excluding women and minorities from the levers of power This book should be read by anyone who has ever worked with other people. What heights might we have reached as a society, what technologies might we have already developed, where might we be if we simply believed that women are as good as men at everything we believe men to be good at I m not positing that we d be living in some utopian Themyscira or that women are capable of solving all of the world s problems, but honestly what might we have already accomplished as a species if our culture wasn t so invested in protecting men s ability to have business meetings in strip clubs, to force women to stand aside despite their talents just so men can tell sexist, dumbass jokes in the workplace